Bestfriends defination; (extracted from various online dictionaries)
- Two or more people who share everything with one another, knowing they can be trusted. People who would, if needed, take a bullet for their friend(s). Two or more people who, through all the new friends, new hobbies, new jobs, rough times, and high school, are always there for eachother, no matter how busy they are. A best friend is someone who can make you feel better no matter what. In some cases, the two or more part doesn't apply. It is quite possible to be your OWN best friend
- The person who you can always count to be there and catch you when your at your worst. Someone who knows all your secrets and silly little crushes. That person you can have a horrible fight with then go shopping for matching bracelts half an hour later. That one person you sit in her room all day jumping up and down listening to Dashboard confessionals singing your heart out with a mouth full of peanut butter.
- people in the world who lighten your every move and u miss more than words say when u are not together
- Someone that will always be there for you no matter what happens.
- A best friend is some one you can count on NO MATTER WHAT. This is a person you could not life with out even if you TRIED. You can just sit there in complete silence and know exactly what the other is thinking. This person owuld NEVER lie to you or talk behind your back.
- Someone who you can come to for advice. They ALWAYS give you the right kind. If they don't then they feel HORRIBLE for it. They make you smile WHENEVER your around them. You trust them with everything you have in you. They know you better than you know yourself. You can give them ONE look and they know what you are saying. You never run out of things to say, if you do then you just laugh about it afterwards. Best friends are everywhere for every one. and most of the time they are TWO totally different people, but it doesn't matter because you have the besssst time ever when you are around them. You have little secrets that are dumb. You have little groups that make no sense, but its so funny.Are people who are there no matter what. When they make a promise to you, they don't break it.And if they do, they ask for forgivenes. If there is a problem, they will try to solve it....but if they can't they will give you a sense of confort. They are true....and you don't have to question their actions or motives. Best Friends are real , true and will love u no matter what you do , And will always ....always....have u in their best interests!!!
- best friends is not a label, it's a PROMISE.
person A: damn, those girls are always together! are they gay or something? person B: no, they're best friends, bitch.
- has no real definition. its just a word until you make it true
-"your one of my best friends!" -"oh yeah? prove it."
- someone who still loves you when you fart in their face..
Apparently, after having spend 7+ years together as bestfriends, now i finally realize who and how she really is... All the promises, the bond, the laughters, the private jokes, the good times, the sacrifices dont matter and is thrown right out of her 4th floor window.. I think we're both just getting too old for this...
WTF? WE'RE ONLY IN THE EARLY TWENTIES?!!??!
My share of friendship hasn't been all pink and rosy for the past few mths. i've been trying and she's been trying, i can tell. but there is nothing left to salvage. she found a whole new level of 'fun' with a new friend. she got a new boyfriend whom is financially stable, good education, good family background, several personal vehicles.. (note, i didnt mention anything abt his character). and im happy for her. i really do. i tried to adapt and all..
Plus, i cant expect her to be bestfriends with me forever (though that wouldnt be too bad would it? it'll be nice..) Anwyays, i dont expect her to not make new friends, to not bond with the new friends, to choose her over me etc. that's selfish, i know. But her actions reached a point of neglect n abandonment towards our friendship. Our sacred friendship. Yes, if i havent said it a gazillion times already, i LOVE her. i really do. In fact, i always feel like i have to live up to this code of honour to protect her from potential harm or danger, be there for her in every sense etc.. Thats what bestfriends do. (Your welcome, dont mention it, now moving along....)
But since the arrival of her new bf, and her new 'close friend' it has brought a great amount of tension onboard the friendship. And my effort of highlighting this to her is in vain. She'll apologize, we negotiate, but its back to the same thing the next day. I think its time i stop acting like a doormat and actually head out of the door (no pun intended). We're grown ups now,we should be able to make decisions for ourself. She wont be needing me for a headstart of an advice and vice versa. I wish u well, Bestfriend. But i got feelings too despite u telling me that im always 'bitchy, got the attitude, my straightforwardness(which is a bad thing to her)' giving me the impression that im this cold, heartless bitch u pictured me to be. Well, i cant disagree but all of those are to a certain extent and only when necessary. U have changed into someone whom i no longer know anymore. Im sure we share the same sentiments about us moving along and this friendship is getting too hard to maintain without one of us hurting the other party without knowing and vice versa.
In the meantime, im glad i have this job to keep me occupied. Not thinking about her was hard. Real hard, i keep checking my hp every few times hoping that there's a miss call or sms from her (to all those who dont know it already, my hp is always in silent mode. work purpose. and when i reach hm i'll always forgets to switch it back to the normal ringing mode). Or going through all the old smses she sent back when we're much happier..
Gosh, this is some serious shit, we're practically married and going through a divorce right now. haha.
Anyways, its not that she totally did not sms me or call me. But i realize a pattern, the sms will always be affiliated to her problems(which i must insist, i dont mind listening. it can be pretty interesting at times), or asking if i hv a plan to go out. And when i say no, she'll end it at that. Somehow there's always this gut feeling inside of me that tells me that she's only asking bcus im the last straw. nobody else is free. Im no longer on her top priority lists anymore, besides her son n family. Dont ask me what is, im sure u could figure it out on your own, who is her top priority right now. To simplify, when there's no one else, and bf is not ard or not meeting her at midnight, only then, she'll ask me out personally.
I know, bcus i msg her new 'close friend' recently and asks her if she is gg out with my bestfren and she said................
"Oh tadi dia msg aku ajak dtg umah die sbb die bored. Den i said ok lah, can. But then suddenly, she said tak jadi, her mom asks her out. So i made other plans lor"
Wow. im hurt (emo sial.). That she did not even invited me over when she was bored n free, but instead chose to invite her new 'close friend' over. not me. not miss akirah lee. gosh. GOSSSSSSSSSHHHHHH!!!!
Oh and on another occasion, she was talking to her NCF and then puts her bf on conference call, and den i call
she said "Eh aku tgh bebual dgn NCF ar (of kos, she didnt use the term NCF, she used her real name) die tgh crite2 aku kol kau balik."
End of call.
Later on she calls me back and tells me interesting details from NCF's story and then.........
she said dis "Eh kalau aku tau aku tarok kau skali ar dlm conference tadi, jadi kau bleh dgr..."
to which i replied, "Ye lah, aku kan tak important."
to which she replied, "Takde, aku tak teringat!"
SHE WAS OBLIVIOUS OK?! she didnt even get my hint.
I REST MY CASE.
oh and i must say, i cannot name any characters in my blogs for privacy purpose. u may assume all you want who the characters are in real life. It may not be true and i wont bother explaining. so dont bother asking as i dont wanna complicate things. i publish this post simply bcus i need an output to ventilate. And nobody else understands me now that my own bestfriend is gone. Do not judge me bcus you can be going through the same low life period that im enduring right now. Bless you, for reading this and understanding that i have no ill intentions and i have nothing but love for everyone. I seek your understanding that i am only human, i make mistakes, and forgive me if need be, till then, you can continue basking around the sun thinking that u lead a better life than me when the truth of the matter is, it dont matter anyways. We're all gonna go to the same resting place one day and our good deeds are the ones that will fare us apart. Before i end, i have to let this out.
I LOVE YOU BESTIE, YOU'RE IRREPLACEABLE, AND I HOPE I AM TOO. IM JUST ON MY OWN NOW. WE'LL LEAVE IT AT THAT OK?
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